© Debbie Merritt 2014 - 2016

Funerals and End of Life

Celebrations

You are in safe hands.

Every   ceremony   I   create   is   unique,   just   as your   loved   one   is   unique.   I   will   meet   with you   and   spend   time   getting   to   know   your loved   one,   and   the   things   that   made   them so    specially    ‘them’.    I    will    then    write    a ceremony      that      honours      them      and celebrates   their   life,   but   also   reflects   and sensitively   acknowledges   your   sadness   at this   time.   My   aim   is   to   create   a   ceremony that    is    respectful,    caring,    and    uplifting. There   are   no   ‘rules’   in   my   ceremonies,   and I    welcome    contributions    from    family    and friends,      and      will      incorporate      them whenever possible. These    days    people    often    develop    their own     philosophies     about     religion     and spirituality,   and   I   acknowledge   this   in   my ceremonies,    whatever    faith    or    no    faith someone may be. Ideally     I     will     meet     you     before     the ceremony,   although   sometimes   this   simply isn’t   possible,   in   which   case   we   can   make arrangements by email or Skype. It   would   be   helpful   if,   before   we   have   our meeting.   you   could   give   some   thoughts   as to    what,    if    the    deceased    hasn’t    already made   their   own   requests,   you   would   like   to be   included.   Do   bear   in   mind   that   there   are time     limits     to     ceremonies     held     at     a crematorium,       however       tributes       and memories   can   still   continue   at   the   wake,   if there is to be one. The     more     details     I     have,     the     more meaningful    I    can    make    the    ceremony. Things    such    as    where    they    were    born, siblings,    school    days,    young    adulthood, memberships     of     groups     or     societies, achievements,         favourite         memories, sayings, holidays etc. It   would   also   be   helpful   to   know   how   many people   will   wish   to   speak,   and   if   there   is someone   who   will   want   to   read   and   write the   eulogy.   If   at   any   point   someone   doesn’t feel   able   to   stand   and   read   their   tribute,   I will of course step in and do that for them.

Creating beautiful,

personalised and

meaningful ceremonies

that are a lasting

testimony to the life

of your loved one

Willow Coffin Atlantic Rest Natural Burial Site

Planning your own funeral

Ideally    I    will    meet    with    people    as    they prepare    for    their    own    death.    This    may seem   morbid   to   some,   but   the   one   thing sure   in   life   is   that   at   some   point   we   will   die. By   preparing   our   wishes   in   advance   we can   take   much   stress   away   from   our   loved ones at a difficult and emotional time. You    can    also    visit    the    Dying    Matters website for more information. www.dyingmatters.org Your   funeral   directors   are   a   good   source   of local   information,   and   can   help   with   such things    as    offering    payment    plans    and advising    about    local    facilities    for    burials and    cremations,    as    well    as    information about local celebrants.
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© Debbie Merritt 2014 - 2016

Funerals and End of Life Celebrations

You are in safe hands.

Every   ceremony   I   create   is   unique,   just   as   your   loved   one   is   unique.   I will   meet   with   you   and   spend   time   getting   to   know   your   loved   one,   and the   things   that   made   them   so   specially   ‘them’.   I   will   then   write   a ceremony   that   honours   them   and   celebrates   their   life,   but   also   reflects and   sensitively   acknowledges   your   sadness   at   this   time.   My   aim   is   to create   a   ceremony   that   is   respectful,   caring,   and   uplifting.   There   are no   ‘rules’   in   my   ceremonies,   and   I   welcome   contributions   from   family and friends, and will incorporate them whenever possible. These   days   people   often   develop   their   own   philosophies   about   religion and   spirituality,   and   I   acknowledge   this   in   my   ceremonies,   whatever faith or no faith someone may be. Ideally   I   will   meet   you   before   the   ceremony,   although   sometimes   this simply   isn’t   possible,   in   which   case   we   can   make   arrangements   by email or Skype. It   would   be   helpful   if,   before   we   have   our   meeting.   you   could   give some   thoughts   as   to   what,   if   the   deceased   hasn’t   already   made   their own   requests,   you   would   like   to   be   included.   Do   bear   in   mind   that there   are   time   limits   to   ceremonies   held   at   a   crematorium,   however tributes   and   memories   can   still   continue   at   the   wake,   if   there   is   to   be one. The    more    details    I    have,    the    more    meaningful    I    can    make    the ceremony.   Things   such   as   where   they   were   born,   siblings,   school days,     young     adulthood,     memberships     of     groups     or     societies, achievements, favourite memories, sayings, holidays etc. It   would   also   be   helpful   to   know   how   many   people   will   wish   to   speak, and   if   there   is   someone   who   will   want   to   read   and   write   the   eulogy.   If at   any   point   someone   doesn’t   feel   able   to   stand   and   read   their   tribute, I will of course step in and do that for them.

Creating beautiful,

personalised and

meaningful ceremonies

that are a lasting

testimony to the life

of your loved one

Willow Coffin Atlantic Rest Natural Burial Site

Planning your own funeral

Ideally   I   will   meet   with   people   as   they   prepare   for   their   own   death. This may   seem   morbid   to   some,   but   the   one   thing   sure   in   life   is   that   at some   point   we   will   die.   By   preparing   our   wishes   in   advance   we   can take   much   stress   away   from   our   loved   ones   at   a   difficult   and   emotional time. You can also visit the Dying Matters website for more information. www.dyingmatters.org Your   funeral   directors   are   a   good   source   of   local   information,   and   can help   with   such   things   as   offering   payment   plans   and   advising   about local   facilities   for   burials   and   cremations,   as   well   as   information   about local celebrants.
In Memoriam debbie merritt  independent celebrant